This time of conclusion and creation as one year draws to a close and another begins is filled with reflection and so-touted resolution. We look back on the past year and see the laundry list of things left undone and remark on how quickly the time flew by. We set goals and resolutions that we hope will solve all our problems and mend all of our imperfections. All of this to supposedly deliver us our ‘best year yet’!
Rather than focusing on all the things left undone, I invite you into a space of deep gratitude for this year as it concludes. Thank every joy and challenge for bringing you exactly where you are in this moment. It may not have all been welcome or pleasant, but it has all served. Acknowledge that you had the courage to show up for yourself in each step. Thank yourself for this daring act of vulnerability. Thank everyone that helped and supported you. Thank everyone that challenged you – it all served your own development.
“I wanted a perfect ending. I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle and end. Life is about not knowing, leaning into change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” -Gilda Radner
And now we turn to the year that lies ahead. There’s nothing wrong with goal-setting and envisioning a better future, but I would offer that the real value lies deeper than a superficial list of things we desperately want to change about ourselves. So, as you peruse your list of resolutions and stare at your vision board, how does it make you feel? What does your heart say in the matter? Do you really want to lose that 15 pounds (or 50 lbs or 100 lbs) so that you can finally stop wishing away the cellulite on your thighs? Or, do you desire to release the weight as you reconnect to the strength of your body and the joy of movement? Do you want to break that bad habit because it’s really one of the worst things about you? Or, do you desire to release a behavior that you recognize is no longer serving you and you are willing to explore its depths as you let it go?
“I stop struggling to be better. I accept myself as someone who is supported by everyone and everything around me.” -Louise Hay
Often, we make restrictive, superficial goals without really examining what our motivations are — what our soul really desires. Even a vague goal to save more money could be a calling to experience financial freedom and abundance. Using the revitalized energy and bubbling potential of this annual renewal to propel you toward your dreams is a powerful motivator, but I invite you to go deeper as you discern your action plan and success markers for the new year. Can the experience be marked by radical self-compassion and total acceptance? Can you be filled with the feeling of expansion and growth rather than restriction and perfection? The invitation is really to ask, ‘how can I be more?’ And it is in this space that true change and transformation is nurtured.
Take a deep breath and give yourself permission to root deeper in your purpose. In this moment, there is limitless possibility. In this moment, you can create absolutely anything and release any negativity or resistance. So, what do you desire to experience and express for each of the next 365 days? Allow the deep pull of your heart to direct you to your intentions and desires for the next year.
“Let your hair down, let your heart out, let the light in.” -Bob Schneider