I go deeper every day. Last weekend during my aunt’s wedding, my middle nugget (youngest niece) was sitting on my lap and exploring everything within reach. This generally means being obsessed with my jewelry and eye-wear, but a couple times her attention found focus on my biceps. I was wearing a short-sleeved dress. She was gently poking and prodding and eventually whispered, “I like your fat, Aunt Karen.” She was totally honest and neutral about it — a surprising but genuine sentiment. And for the first time I can remember, my first thought was not one of disgust or shame but agreement. I am exploring how to be secure in the truth that there is no wrong way to have a body. And that even though I want to support and facilitate change in my body, it does not make the body I have now wrong or bad.
I am officially an Inner Beauty Shop facilitator as part of the Embody Love Movement. I am grateful and humbled and filled to overflowing with inspiration. The movement is focused on inspiring and empowering women and girls to embrace their own value and beauty, practicing kindness toward themselves and others, and believing they have purpose and can create meaning in the world. And to this I say: Yes! And more please!… “What was once a mess becomes a message…” Powerful and transformative do not even begin to describe it. This pic is my yoga mat filled with love notes from my fellow newly-minted facilitators. Each note shares a quality that they have found and love within me. Each time I step on the mat, I can allow the resonance of those qualities to be reflected back to me.
“I want to apologize to all the women
I have called pretty.
before I’ve called them intelligent or brave.
I am sorry I made it sound as though
something as simple as what you’re born with
is the most you have to be proud of
when your spirit has crushed mountains
from now on i will say things like, you are resillient
or, you are extraordinary.
not because i don’t think you’re pretty
but because you are so much more than that”